Before every session it is important to take the time to create an intention for your session. Your intention can be an intention for what it is you want to make changes in your personal life, your self, or for the session you will be receiving. It is very important to have an intention for every session. It is like a mini prayer that you make a short statement of an affirmation affirming I intend ____ for my life, or I intend _____ for my personal growth, or I intend for the session today to be ____, to create ______ or to allow an opening in _______. These are examples of how you might want to phrase your intention in preparation before you come, or have it in your mind of what you want to say, or even better to have written it down in a notebook or on a piece of paper.
Even if your intention is not to have an agenda, that in itself is an intention.
Intentions create the session and they allow me the permission to give to you my best skills in accomplishing your goals and support you in the best way and allow me to be divinely guided by spirit. Making an intention is a very powerful statement to the universe of asking for what it is you want or need. Words create power and with your spoken word miracles can happen, beauty can be created and your prayer is a statement to make manifest in the universe.
May you always create an intention before anything you do and may you always receive your true hearts desires!
For Those With No Prior Experience
Perhaps you don't know what your intention is and you don't know how to figure out what it is. Here are some possible scenarios:
1). (For men) You are married and are
feeling completely disconnected from your wife. You want to connect to
her but you don't understand why she is disinterested in sex with you.
You've tried everything you can think of, and your struggling in your
mind about what direction to take. You're feeling at a loss and
completely dis-empowered in your marriage. You love her deeply, but
don't feel as though you're getting through to her.
2). (For men or women) You are single and alone. You are feeling very
lonely, although you are afraid of letting yourself be open to a new
partner. You've been deeply hurt in the past, and you are afraid to be
hurt again. You feel as though you tried as hard as you could and the
partners in your past didn't appreciate you, or recognize the good
things you offered in the relationship. You feel fed up, frustrated,
hurt and alone, and you are looking for a way to change how you behave
in a relationship, the pain from the past, and your ability to be open
to someone new.
3). (For men or women) You're in a relationship but are feeling
completely frustrated and dissatisfied. Your sex drive is higher than
your partner, and you wish he or she would just be more interested in
sex with you. You're feeling tempted to look for new partners because
your sex drive is so high that it distracts your ability to be in the
moment with your partner, your work, and your time alone. You want to
either learn how to control your urges, and release the stress around
the frustration, or you wish that there was another way you could
explore your sexuality, and allow your desires to be fulfilled.
4). (For men or women) You are new on the spiritual path, and are
looking for a new journey to explore. You are not interested in
improving your sex life with a partner, or manifesting a new
relationship, but instead you want to learn how to love yourself
deeper, and find peace within your self. You feel that you have a lot
of potential as a person, and you are looking for new ways to grow. You
are not particularly looking for a great sex life, but are seeking ways
to have a deeper connection to spirit, the divine and possibly learn
how to harness the ability to have a full body orgasmic experience, and
open yourself to a deep love for yourself.
5). (For men) You are in a relationship and feel embarrassed or ashamed
of yourself because you're unable to hold your erection or ejaculation.
You are cumming or releasing very quickly into the intimacy with your
partner, and you wish you could learn how to control your ejaculation,
so you can pleasure your partner, and give her the satisfaction she
deeply yearns from you. You want to learn how to stay hard longer, and
keep the intimacy going strong, but your cumming quickly makes you feel
like that is never going to happen.
6). (For men) Or, you are single and are afraid of finding someone new
because you have been too embarrassed or devastated in the past because
you came too quickly, and never felt as though you were offering the
relationship anything, and now you have a low self esteem and lack
confidence in being with anyone.
7). (For men) You have a bladder or a prostate issue and feel as though
your sex life is over and you've caved to thinking you'll never have
sex again, and have to only masturbate to get your needs met. You feel
frustrated, angry, hurt, and alone.
8). (For men or women) You have a heart of gold and have so much to
offer a person, but don't ever feel appreciated, acknowledged, accepted
or loved to feel comfortable in giving yourself to anyone. A lot of
your memories of love, relationships & intimacy have been around
feeling alone, empty and isolated and you have a hard time truly
trusting anyone again because they never really got you or appreciated
you before. Your sense of self worth is low and your very hurt and
aren't sure what to do.
9). (For men or women) You are married and want to spice up your sex
life with your husband or wife. You want to have a new experience that
will open the door to more pleasure with each other, but your partner
doesn't think there is anything else you can do. Perhaps your partner
isn't comfortable looking for outside help and thinks the two of you
have to figure it out on your own. You are the one who wants to take
action and make a difference in the passion and pleasure you have
together. You are willing to make that call, and think there is no
better time than the present! You are willing to come to a session
alone to learn techniques the two of you can do together. You know your
partner would not feel comfortable coming with you, and you are willing
to be your partners teacher. Or you want to invite your partner to the
session so the both of you can start the journey of learning together.
You know your partner would be totally open minded, and you feel it
will build more intimacy if you both come.
10). (For men or women) You're either in a relationship,
or you are single, but in either case, your sexual drive, passion, and
desire for intimacy is shut down, blocked, or you feel disinterested,
numb and withdrawn to the idea of intimacy. You're not sure why you are
shut down or blocked, and you know what it feels like when your body
was open in the past. You want to learn how to re-ignite your own
sexual energy, and open your body's energy from being where it is now
to being extremely sensual, passionate and open to intimacy. You're not
sure how you can open your body's energy, but you've heard that Tantra
might be able to help you.
(In this case, you may also have been abused, violated or traumatized
in some way, or have been in a depression, going through stress, an
emotional rut, and really need something to break down your walls and
bring you back into feeling really good in your own body. If you are
seeing a Therapist presently, please do not stop seeing him/her. Tantra
is a great catalyst to add to the progress you want to make in your
growth, and I'll be happy to support you in any way I can. If you are
seeing someone, it may be extremely beneficial that we work together to
help you, or at least to know what you are working on presently in your
healing process.)
Other Scenarios:
11). (Usually women) You are married or in a serious
relationship, and your partner is frustrated with you because you're
not interested in being close to him or her, sex, intimacy or making
time to be together. You feel secure that the relationship is strong,
but are starting to realize that your partner may be feeling resentful
of your distance and the foundation and security you have built
together may not outweigh the intensity of his or her frustration. Your
friends or loved ones are suggesting that you look for some help, and
are warning you that if you don't make some changes, you may lose the
person you love the most. (Most of the time I work with the partner of
this relationship and they really want you to come see me or someone
for help. They really do love you and want to be close to you, and
would do anything to help you heal. I am happy to see you individually
or together.)
12). (For women) You are a woman, and your sex drive is high, you want
to be adored, honored and appreciated as a woman. You wish that your
man or partner would have the stamina and ability to stay present with
you, make love longer with you, hold you, give you the affection,
attention, loving kindness and pleasure you deeply. You are either
frustrated and ready to give up on the relationship, are wanting to be
satisfied and pleasured, or you you are seeking a new way to be with
your partner so you can teach him how to be the man you wish he would
be. You know that your man is open to learning from you, deeply loves
you or has the potential to be an amazing lover. You want to learn how
to be a powerful woman so that he will want to learn from you, or you
are ready to find someone new!
There could be many more scenarios, but the ones above
are the most popular of cases of clients I have seen.
For those who have had no prior experience in
Spiritual Healing, Meditation, Reiki, Yoga, or other forms of
Connecting with the Divine, please See Phase 1 on the page Levels of Tantra, Yogini Of The Heart and Session Preparation. We can combine Phase 1 and the type of Session you are looking for in one. We will cover this in your consultation.
